In today’s digital age, having open and honest conversations with your kids about the online world is more important than ever. The internet is an incredible place for learning, creativity, and connection, but it also comes with risks. The key isn’t to scare children away from the digital world—it’s to equip them with the knowledge and confidence to navigate it safely.
There’s no one “right” way to have this conversation. The most important thing is that it happens. Whether it’s a casual chat during dinner or a more structured discussion, what matters is that your child knows they can come to you with anything they see, hear, or experience online.
The Good and the Not-So-Good of the Online World
The internet offers amazing opportunities—kids can connect with friends, learn new skills, and express themselves creatively. Social media, in particular, can help children stay connected and develop a sense of belonging.
But the online world isn’t without risks. Some people use the internet to manipulate, deceive, and harm others. Cyberbullying, online grooming, scams, and exposure to inappropriate content are very real dangers. Helping children understand this without overwhelming them is key.
The goal isn’t to stop them from using technology—it’s to help them use it wisely.
The Rule of Thumb: Keep Devices in Open Spaces
One of the most effective ways to ensure online safety is by setting clear boundaries on where devices can be used. A simple but powerful rule is: no devices in bedrooms, bathrooms, or toilets.
Keeping device use out in the open means:
✔ You can casually check in on what your child is doing online.
✔ It reduces the risk of secretive or unsafe online interactions.
✔ It helps create a healthier balance between screen time and real-life connections.
If this isn’t a rule in your home yet, don’t worry—it’s never too late to introduce it. Have a conversation with your child about why this boundary is important and work together to create clear family guidelines.
Three Key Messages for Your Child
When talking to your child about online safety, here are three essential points to cover:
- If anything makes you feel unsafe or uncomfortable, come to me.
If they see something disturbing, if someone asks them to do something that feels wrong, or if a stranger reaches out to them online, they need to know they can come to you—without fear of punishment or shame. Reinforce that your role is to protect and support them. - Know who they are talking to and what they are engaging with.
As a parent, take time to learn about the games, apps, and social platforms they use. Know who they’re talking to online. Some apps allow strangers to connect with kids without parental knowledge. Staying informed helps you guide them towards safer choices. - Decide when your child is ready for social media.
Many parents allow their children on social media too early, simply because they don’t fully understand the impact. A good rule of thumb is to wait until at least 16 years old, as will soon be required by Australian law for platforms like Meta. But remember, not all apps are covered by this legislation—YouTube and other platforms still allow younger users. The right age depends on your child’s maturity and your family’s values.
Consider an Online Safety Contract
A great way to reinforce online safety in your home is by creating an online contract with your child. Organisations like ThinkUKnow and the Carly Ryan Foundation offer excellent templates that outline family rules and expectations for digital use. By signing an agreement together, children take ownership of their online behaviour, making them more likely to follow safety guidelines.
Click here to view the online contract.
Make It a Family Conversation
The best way to keep your kids safe online is through ongoing conversations, not just one big talk. The more they feel comfortable discussing these topics with you, the more likely they are to seek your guidance when they need it.
One way to make these conversations natural and engaging is by using The Table Talk Project. Sitting down for a meal together provides the perfect opportunity for open discussions about online safety in a relaxed environment. The Table Talk Project encourages meaningful conversations that help families stay connected, making it easier to tackle important topics like digital well-being.
At the end of the day, keeping your child safe online isn’t about controlling them—it’s about empowering them. The more they understand the online world and the risks involved, the better equipped they’ll be to navigate it responsibly. Start the conversation today—it could make all the difference.
Here are some other helpful resources:
https://www.esafety.gov.au/parents/resources
https://www.carlyryanfoundation.com/resources/fact-sheets
https://www.esafety.gov.au/key-topics/esafety-guide
