One of the most common things I hear from families is, “We’ve never had dinner together regularly—it’s too late to start now.” Parents tell me their kids are too old, too busy, or just wouldn’t be interested in sitting around the table for a conversation. But here’s the truth: it’s never too late to change. No matter how long it’s been, you can start now. Not next month, not next year—this week, even tonight.
The Power of Small Steps
Changing a family habit doesn’t mean flipping everything upside down overnight. You don’t have to go from no dinner conversations to deep, meaningful discussions instantly. Start small. Aim for just one meal together this week. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s simply starting.
Think of it like learning to ride a bike. You don’t start by tackling a mountain trail; you start with training wheels. One meal. One conversation. One step forward.
Why This Matters
We already know the research: families who eat together and talk regularly have stronger relationships, better communication, and improved mental health. It’s not about the food; it’s about the connection. When we make time to sit down together, we’re telling our kids: you matter.
How to Get Started – A Step-by-Step Guide
1. Decide That This Matters
Before anything else, commit to making a change. Recognise the value of family mealtimes and make it a priority.
2. Talk to Your Family About It
You don’t need a big, dramatic announcement. Simply say something like:
“I’d love for us to have at least one meal together each week where we sit at the table and talk. I think it could be good for us.”
Let them share their thoughts and concerns, but be clear that you’d really like to try.
3. Choose a Night
Look at everyone’s schedules and pick a time that works. It doesn’t have to be dinner—maybe breakfast on Saturdays or a Sunday lunch.
4. Keep It Simple
Don’t overcomplicate it. Order takeaway if that makes it easier. The goal isn’t a fancy meal; it’s conversation.
5. Start Light
The first time, don’t pressure anyone into deep discussion. Use easy, fun conversation starters like:
- What’s one good thing that happened today?
- If you could travel anywhere, where would you go?
- What’s the best meal you’ve ever had?
6. Be Consistent, But Flexible
Make this a habit, but don’t stress if some weeks don’t go as planned. Just keep coming back to the table.
7. Use a Tool to Help
Starting a new habit can feel overwhelming, which is why we created Back at the Table, a tool from The Table Talk Project designed to guide families through meaningful conversations. It helps take the pressure off and gives you the confidence to keep going.
This Could Be Life-Changing
Families who make mealtimes a priority see real benefits. They talk more. They listen better. They strengthen their relationships. And it all starts with one decision: to begin.
So why not tonight? Set the table, put the phones away, and start with just one conversation. Because it’s never too late to change.
Also give this video a watch. Just for a little more convincing it is never too late to change.
