The other day marked a significant moment in our family’s journey with The Table Talk Project. It wasn’t just another weekly session; it was a milestone, a moment when we realised the impact of being fully present at the dinner table.
As we gathered for our customary Table Talk, the aroma of Hot Chip Buddies filled the air—our quick dinner choice after a hectic evening of my daughter’s basketball game. With the family seated, enticed by the scent of hot chips, and my phone poised on the table for the Back at the Table tool, my son spoke up. “Hey, Dad, can we leave the phone aside and just have a conversation? You can fill in the details later.” His request carried weight, especially coming from a typically reserved teenager.
I happily obliged, putting the phone away, and that decision set the stage for a remarkable conversation. My daughter initiated the Main discussion with a thought-provoking question: “If you could have a dream house, what would you have in it?” Each family member shared their visions, from extravagant features like full-court basketball courts and indoor pools to simpler desires. It became a blend of dreams and gratitude for what we already had.
As we moved through the Main, we ventured into dessert, where my children surprised me by seamlessly navigating the Dessert questions: “Did you feel listened to and heard?” and “What attitude are you leaving the table with?” My 11-year-old daughter confidently led our family in reflection. We set a date for the next Table Talk, left the table with hearts full, and I couldn’t have been prouder.
After the meal, I approached the Back at the Table tool. Visiting thetabletalkproject.org, I clicked on “back at the table” and filled out the details as if we were still gathered around, led by my daughter. With a sense of accomplishment, we hit SUBMIT, completing another step in our Table Talk journey.
Reflecting on this special family time, I realised that we had successfully passed on the essence of The Table Talk Project to our children. They not only understood the why but now knew the how. It was a unique and precious moment, a testament to the power of genuine connection and the importance of being fully present with our loved ones.
In that seemingly ordinary Table Talk, we discovered the extraordinary impact of eliminating distractions, embracing the present moment, and fostering meaningful conversations. As we hope to continue this tradition in the years to come, we’ve not just created a family ritual but instilled a value that our children may carry on with their own families.
When it comes to to your Table Time don’t feel compelled to use The Back at the Table Tool while at the table but fill it in later. DOn’t forget to hit SUBMIT though after so we can keep improving what we offer you in conversation starters and recipes.
Have a great week in your conversations!
